entry 4 ~
Ever wanted to know what the supporting arguments are, for someone trying to convince you that vulgarities are “bad”? Let’s say you’re just out and about, chatting with your friends and you did say a profane word or two… And an adult hears it. It’d look something like this:
context: ** your best friend just told you that he/she was cheated on by his/her significant other and you respond with “what the f**k?! That’s f**king unbelievable!“
“hey, stop using vulgarities” Why? “because it’s rude and disrespectful” okay, how is it rude and disrespectful “because it’s bad and it’s hurtful” okay, so explain how it’s bad and hurtful (this goes on and on and eventually goes back to the first “reason”)
Let’s face it, there’s no real solid secular argument to actually support why profanities are “bad”. None. What you’ve read above is one of many circular arguments that exist on this topic. And it’s hilarious seeing someone struggling to prove their own points that they clearly know they have no way of proving. At all. And their shit just goes round and round.
- Fear through intimidation!
An easy way to establish dominance (make someone your bitch) is to control what they can or can’t say. And that, in turn, allows an easier transition into controlling what they think and believe. Basically, communism on a more “platonic”scale, but still bad.
- Unconditional accusations?
It’s commonly observed that only 2 kinds of people would tell us to stop using profanities and I’m not pulling this out of my ass.
- Adults who demand “respect” in frustration of losing complete control over you in one way or another.
- Others who were contained heavily under adults in point 1. and did not have the liberty to speak as they wished. They have the “crab mentality” (if you put a single crab in a bucket, it will find a way to crawl out to escape. But if you put two crabs in a bucket, one will wrestle the other to ensure no escape and vice versa.) Cus if I can’t say it, neither can you.
- Capturing from linguistics and history
Vulgar speech has always been a part of linguistics and will always be a part of it, William Shakespeare is one such example of how profanities continue to progress. And that’s undeniable, ask ANY literature student.
“a plague o’ both your houses” ~Romeo and Juliet. Written by William Shakespeare In translation : “a curse on both of your families” / (singlish) “f**k both you two family lah”
The point of linguistics is to get your message across, as efficiently as possible and with a purpose. Vulgarities can often do just that. Vulgarities used when conveying emotion is also common because while showing the level of severity, it can also be adjusted (like macham tv remote or radio lor) just by leveling your tone!
- Knowing the line
In all honesty, this subject is a rather grey area even for me. But I’m fine with threading the fine line at the moment.
I am not advocating the use of vulgarities intending to cause grievous harm to others in any way, shape or form
Words can be weapons regardless the presence of vulgar words or otherwise, it doesn’t take a vulgarity to hurt someone. HURTING OTHERS ISN’T THE GOAL OF MY CONTENT.
- Your choices
By the end of the day, you decide what’s ethical and what’s not. It isn’t right t0 impose a command on others just because you feel that it’s “what’s best” . Think twice before you speak and thrice just so you save yourself from looking like a d*ck. And having a conversation where redundant vulgarities just come spewing out of your mouth is nothing but complete pointless chatter and frankly makes you look like a complete dumbass ‘cus of the absence of purpose in your speech. So don’t.
- On guard in what you stand for
Do not allow what I’ve said, or what anyone else has said, for that matter, to push you into compromising your set of values and beliefs.
Be wise in what you say and never seek to cause discord with your words. Language is a tool and words are weapons. Fix and defend, don’t build to attack.
This probably won’t be the end of this topic, but… Take from this what you will and I hope this helps you in your future endeavors, and i’ll see you again soon. Ciao!